Jill Zimmer, B.A., M.A., CPCS (in training) - Therapist
Jill specializes in counselling for:
- Depression vs Sadness
- Anxiety vs. Stress
- Complicated Grief and Loss
- Ambiguous Grief and Loss
- The “Myth” of Closure
- Life Transitions
- Trauma and Resilience
- Relational Issues (family, friends, co-workers)
- Pre-marriage, Marriage, Separation, Divorce and Re-marriage.
- Identity Issues (Individual, Family/Community, Place/Circumstance)
- Spiritual Issues (Questions, History, Integration)
- Existential Questions and Experiences (Living well, Dying well, Forgiveness, Reconciliation)
- Young Adults (18-29), Mid-Life Adults (30-60), Seniors (61 plus)
Jill experienced the following symptoms:
- Inability to turn off thoughts
- Mental Gymnastics (or “Tennis Match” thinking)
- Pre-occupation with ‘getting it right’ or intense feelings of guilt when I don’t Imbalanced feelings of responsibility
- Perfectionism (noticing what’s not ‘right’ vs ‘good enough’ thinking)
- Identity disturbance and questioning
- Anger, frustration, irritability
- Inability to stay asleep
- Uncontrolled crying/inability to cry
- Racing Heart
- Muscle Tension and Headaches; Poor Circulation
- Imbalanced internal vs. external responses to stress.
- Sensitive to environment changes in weather, sound or mood
- Digestive Issues
As a young girl, Jill distinctly remembers laying in her bed consumed with thoughts around “how would I solve ‘x’ if it happened?” Jill’s mind would race with feelings and concerns she might have to encounter in these scenarios which usually never happened. Jill would not share these worries or concerns or fears with anyone and subsequently developed a pervasive habit of internalizing all of her stress. She was constantly plagued with stomach aches, headaches and digestive issues as a child but for all anyone ever knew she was a quiet, unobtrusive, responsible and mild-mannered kid.
“Living in her head” became so much the experience of Jill’s life that she rarely chose to “live” her life for real and on purpose. Jill was paralyzed making choices or decisions that might lead to failure, embarrassment or disappointment that she often just didn’t. Literally, she just didn’t make any decisions that weren’t concretely affirmed to be “fine.” “No,” or ‘it’s fine,” became her script of choice until about mid-way through her college years when she had a “break-down,” which became her first “break-through.”
For many of us, marriage and other significant relationships - whether successful or not - become ground zero for some of the most fertile learning experiences of self. It was in these places Jill first began noticing that how she was living; what she was thinking; HOW she was thinking was beginning to cement harmful beliefs about herself and the people in her life. Jill started recognizing everyday experiences were becoming more difficult to navigate and find peace within. She started to see these changes not only affect her ability to love well but perhaps even more destructive, her ability to receive love. Jill finds herself more capable today as a result of embracing the hard, laborious work to use the tools she was given to support re-orienting herself successfully. Jill suggests that her “doing” was easier to manipulate because of her sense of responsibility and capable nature but it was her heart - the centre of her being - that she struggled to find healing. The ultimate ‘marriage’ of these two pieces is the main message Jill teaches today.
Having worked for over a decade in private practice helping others discover this pathway to freedom has been challenging and deeply rewarding for Jill. After finishing her grad studies in Counselling (M.A.) at Providence Theological Seminary, Jill went on to complete a myriad of trainings to support a dynamic counselling practice. This joy of learning and discovery continues for her today. Jill took special notice over her years in private practice of the growing need in our society for anxiety reduction support and looks forward to adding this practical specialty to her list of services.
The combination of good self-help information and working with an experienced anxiety disorder therapist is the most effective way to address anxiety disorder and its many symptoms. Until the core causes of anxiety are addressed - the underlying factors that motivate apprehensive behavior - a struggle with anxiety disorder can return again and again. Identifying and successfully addressing anxiety's underlying factors is the best way to overcome problematic anxiety.
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