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Boundaries Test Self Quiz - Instant Results

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Written by: Jim Folk.
Medically reviewed by: Marilyn Folk, BScN.
Last updated: July 6, 2019


Boundaries test quiz online

What Are Boundaries?

Boundaries is the dividing line that separates me from you. Boundaries help us determine what I’m responsible for (all of my behavior, rights, and responsibilities) and what I’m not responsible for (all of your behavior, rights, and responsibilities). Behavior can be defined as: thoughts, emotions, feelings, moods, actions, etc.

Boundaries foster healthy self-esteem and personal relationships, as well as empower living authentically. A lack of boundaries can not only sabotage a person’s quality of life but can also lead to the development of mental health problems, such as anxiety disorder, depression, and issues with chronic stress.

Having healthy boundaries is essential to living a rich, fulfilling, and authentic life.


Take this short 10 question boundaries test to see if you have healthy boundaries.

Go through each question and answer it according to how you truly feel. Keep in mind that all questions have a preselected answer. Be sure to make the necessary changes on each question.

Once you are finished, click the "See Results" button to go to the next page for your test results.

Boundaries Test

1. Do you feel guilty when you say “no” to requests you don’t want to do?
Yes, all the time
Yes, most of the time
Yes, sometimes
Yes, but not often
No, not at all
 
2. When someone asks you for a favor you’d rather say “no” to, how often do you say “yes” anyway?
All the time
Most of the time
Sometimes
Not often
Not at all
 
3. When someone treats you poorly or gets upset with you, do you take it personally?
Yes, absolutely
Yes, for the most part
Yes, somewhat
Yes, a little
No, not at all
 
4. Do you have trouble saying "no" to requests or demands you don’t want to do?
Absolutely, all the time
Yes, most of the time
Yes, sometimes
Yes, but not often
No, not at all
 
5. Do you strongly feel the pain and suffering of other people?
Absolutely, all the time
Yes, most of the time
Yes, sometimes
Yes, but not often
No, not at all
 
6. What do you do when someone tries to guilt you into doing something?
Just do it so they aren’t upset
Argue with them but eventually give in
Tell them off and walk away
Tell them I understand and that I'll do whatever they want next time
Remain firm in my decision and ask them to stop laying guilt trips
 
7. What do you do when someone says “no” to your request?
Get angry, show them I'm upset, tell them off, and unfriend them
Get angry, show them I'm upset, and try to guilt them into changing their mind
Do whatever I can to change their mind
Get angry but don’t say anything
Nothing because I'm ok with hearing “no”
 
8. Do you believe you always have to explain yourself when you say “no” to something you don’t want to do?
No, not at all
Yes, but not often
Yes, sometimes
Yes, often
Yes, all the time
 
9. When a friend or loved one cancels an appointment with you at the last moment, do you:
Get upset, let the person know they should never cancel at the last moment
Get upset, let the person know I'm upset, but don’t tell them why
Get upset, don’t say anything, but unfriend them
Get upset, deal with my own upsetness, and reschedule for another time
Understand, manage my disappointment, and reschedule for another time
 
10. Do you base your self-worth on how people treat you?
Yes, absolutely
Yes, for the most part
Yes, somewhat
Yes, a little
No, not at all
 
Be sure you've answered every question according to how you truly feel. When you are finished, click on the "See Results" button to see your results.
 
 
 
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