Thank You For Your Amazing Website And For Sue Who Helped Me Overcome My Anxiety!
I wanted to take this opportunity to thank you for your amazing website and also to Sue who helped me overcome my anxiety.
I came across your website searching the internet when I was struggling with anxiety symptoms, including panic attacks. The amount of knowledge and help the website provides is astounding and nothing else I have come across comes close. Once I had read through the chapters, I began to follow your recovery strategies and the symptoms started to calm down. I decided to start talking with Sue (over Skype) as I felt I needed to identify the behaviours that had caused the over stimulation in the first place and get help to change, recover, and never have this happen again. If anyone is thinking about whether or not to talk to one of the Therapists, I strongly recommend you do. You can't put a price on regaining your normal health, and I bet like me, you have spent lots of money trying different methods and ways to find a 'cure' anyway. It doesn't need to be every week. I started talking to Sue fortnightly.
Sue was completely nonjudgmental, kind, and encouraging. She is also very patient as I was not very good at following what I had been told to do at times and can be quite stubborn and tend to question everything!
We started by putting in place the recovery strategies to calm the body down and she explained how the symptoms were being caused. We had a look at my childhood and she helped me see why I had developed certain behaviours. She taught me that we can choose to be the person we want to be. It is all in our power. She taught me that it is okay to let my guard down and not feel I have to be in control of everything (because the truth is, we are actually in control of very little). She also showed me that the answers actually all lie within us.
Don't waste your time continually searching for a cure. Although it feels like it, you are not ill. Your body is just over stimulated creating very horrible symptoms, I agree, but they all go away in time. It does take some time, but it also generally takes longer to recover because we do a good job of getting in our body's natural way of recovering. I know I did.
Talking with Sue helped me during my recovery over the last couple of years. She helped me with challenges, such as coming off of my medication, taking a flight again, the death of my cat amongst other things. We all have doubts and need reassurance at times to keep us on the right track. The journey is bumpy and it isn't easy, but we can all recover if we do the right things. Jim you are so right when you say that if we do the right things and for long enough, the body has to recover…and it will. It is the same for everyone so follow the recovery strategies the Anxiety Centre recommends. Persist with them!
Sue also helped me reconnect with my belief in God which has helped me with my fears of death and dying. To any one reading this, religion doesn't need to have anything to do with your recovery if you are not religious. We talked about it because I chose to and I asked Sue for help in this area.
I would like to say a couple of things about the symptoms. Unfortunately for me having the symptoms fed right into my health anxieties! A big recipe for an anxiety disorder! I struggled for a while to accept them and I was fearful of them but this just keeps them going! Doctors can tell the difference between anxiety symptoms and other medical conditions so try and believe your Doctor when he tells you it is anxiety. It will make such a difference.
Also, I really struggled with the psychological symptoms. The depression, the overwhelm, doom and gloom, depersonalisation, constant mind chatter, negative thoughts, and even suicidal thoughts. I know these were all a by-product of a tired, stressed, and over stimulated mind. In flight and fight mode, we are continually risk assessing. I did not have any of these thoughts before I developed an anxiety disorder and I don't again now that I have recovered. The point I am trying to make is that once the body calms down and we return to normal health, all these thoughts and feelings just disappear on their own. We don't actually need to do anything except to try not to fret and worry about them while they are there. Of course, doing this just stalls recovery. I learnt not to attach any importance to them. They will come and go, so just let them be. It does take a leap of faith.
I now live a more balanced and healthier lifestyle and with Sue's help, I have learnt to contain my worries. I still have some work to do on my thoughts and behaviours, but I have all the knowledge and tools to continue doing this.
So thanks again Jim and Sue. Keep up the good work!
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Authors: Jim Folk, Marilyn Folk, BScN. Last updated October 9, 2018.