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Thanks to your information, I just realized that my anxious behavior is teaching my children to be anxious, too. I see them doing the same kinds of things I used to when I was a child. This breaks my heart. As a parent with young children, how can I help them overcome their anxiety issues when I’m just starting to work on my own?

Marilyn Folk BScN medical reviewer
Written by: Jim Folk.
Medically reviewed by: Marilyn Folk, BScN.
Updated: May 11, 2019

How can I help my anxious children when I'm just starting my recovery?

First, good for you for recognizing how your behavior is affecting your children. This is a good start.

Second, it’s great that you are starting to work on your behaviors. As you make progress, they will, too, just by seeing you approach life in a less apprehensive manner. They will also benefit by seeing how you interact with them, which is often adopted and used when they interact with others. As your interactions with them become healthier, so will their interactions with others.

Third, you may want to start working with an anxiety disorder therapist who also works with children. This combination can go a long way to helping both you and your children learn to live healthy, non-anxious lives. The other benefit is that not only will you and your children live less anxious lives but your relationships will be healthier, too.

Because this is such a great area of need, we were really happy to add Marie Sherwood to our team or recommended therapists. Marie is an anxiety psychotherapist who has a special interest in working with anxious children and families. If you are interested, she would be a great resource to work with as you are working to make healthy change within yourself and your children.

The combination of good self-help information and working with an experienced anxiety disorder therapist is the most effective way to address anxiety disorder and its many symptoms. Until the core causes of anxiety are addressed - the underlying factors that motivate apprehensive behavior - a struggle with anxiety disorder can return again and again. Identifying and successfully addressing anxiety's underlying factors is the best way to overcome problematic anxiety.

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