• I’m not acceptable unless I perform well.
• I must be perfect.
• I’m not good enough.
• I have to do for others, to be loved.  
• I have to do for others, in order for God to bless me.  
• I’m a loser.
• I’m in adequate.
• I’m inferior, substandard.
• There’s something wrong with me.
• I’m not equal to others, nor will I ever be.
• I should never feel inadequate.
• It’s my fault that bad things happen to me.
• If I were a better person, bad things wouldn’t happen to me.
• No one loves me.
• I’m not worthy of love.
• No one will ever love me.
• I can’t be nervous.
• I can’t look nervous.
• Asking for help is a sign of weakness.
• I’m the only one I can count on.
• I have to be the strong one.
• When people tell me nice comments they are only saying it to make me feel good.
• Nice comments only mean someone wants something from me.
• Criticism just tells me that I’m no good.
• I always have to know what I’m doing or else I feel like a loser and maybe should quit.
• I have to be concerned about what others think of me.
• I’m such a loser for being afraid.
• I can’t be afraid.
• I hate problems.
• Having problems is a sign of weakness or incompetence.
• I can’t look weak.
• I must be the one everyone can depend on.
• I can’t make mistakes.
• Making mistakes is a sign of stupidity.
• Only fools make mistakes.
• I’m ugly, unattractive.
• I don’t like how I look.
• I’m fat, skinny, tall, short, too white, too dark, etc.
• I don’t like my hair, nose, eyes, teeth, butt, hips, legs, breasts, height, size, etc.
• I’m not very smart.
• I can't look nervous.
• I can’t settle for less than my expectations.
• I need to live up to my expectations in order for me to be happy.
• Having problems is a sign that I don’t have it together.
• I won't succeed so why bother trying.
• I’ll never amount to anything.
• I’ll never be made a fool of ever again.
• I’m never going to be able to succeed.
• I’m not worthy to be equal to others.
• If only I was a better person.
• It’s my fault that no one likes me.
• It’s my fault that my sister (brother, friend, etc.) died.
• My opinion isn’t worth anything.
• I’m not good enough to be happy.
• I don’t deserve to be happy.
• What others think or say is more important than what I might think, say or feel.  
• I’m insecure and different.  
• My thoughts and feelings don’t matter.
• I have to make my parents proud of me.
• Other kids our age didn’t need to deal with the same responsibilities, we are poor and undeserving.
• I come from a freaky family, we deserved to be shunned and ostracized.
• I’m not worthy of good things happening to me.
• Good things happen to everyone else, but not me.
• Expressing my emotions is a waste of time. Nobody cares.
• Expressing my emotions is wrong or means I’m a weakling or a sissy.
• I shouldn’t share my true emotions.
• My thoughts and feelings don’t matter.
• I can’t be myself.
• I will never express my emotions to anyone ever again.
• I won’t be a sissy.
• I’ll never be vulnerable again.
• I’m stupid for feeling this way.
• No one cares about me.
• I don’t want to express my emotions because I might slip into an emotional breakdown.
• It’s better not to think of the negative stuff and do my best to reject and ignore it.
• It’s wrong to feel sad/sorrow/upset.
• It’s better to harm myself physically than to feel the emotions I’ve bottled up.
• I must please people in order for them to like me.
• I have to do what other people want me to do so that I don’t disappoint them.
• Saying no is selfish.
• I have to do whatever my mom or dad wants.
• My opinion doesn’t matter.
• It is safer to say no than to face the consequences of saying yes.
• I have to do for others to be loved.  
• I shouldn’t make anyone feel bad or hurt their feelings.
• I shouldn’t upset anyone.
• People shouldn’t argue because someone always gets hurt.
• Arguing is wrong.
• People should just get along nicely.
• It’s selfish to stand up for myself.
• I shouldn’t express my opinion.
• It’s wrong to express my opinion.
• If I constantly do things for people, they will like and respect me.
• A person shouldn’t make waves.
• Happiness is when everyone is getting along and there aren’t any problems.
• I shouldn’t bother anyone.
• I don't have to have my way.
• I have to have all of the answers.
• I am responsible for how others feel.
• Relaxation is a sign of laziness.
• Doing what I like is selfish.
• It is wrong to waste time.
• I have to do everything, or nothing gets done
• I need to handle all things
• I must be in control
• I have to look out for me because no one will take care of me.  They will always look after themselves so I have to be in control.
• I should never be afraid
• Once I achieve my goals, I’ll be satisfied and content.
• Successful means being financially well-off.
• People who achieve great things are more important than I am.
• I better not be too happy because something bad will happen.
• I always have to be on the look out for something bad.
• It’s wrong to do things I don’t know everything about.
• The world is a very unsafe place.
• I always have to be on alert for danger.
• Don’t feel too happy because something bad will most likely happen.
• I can’t do anything right and I can’t let anyone know or they won’t like me.
• I must avoid pain at all costs.
• I have to do as I am told.
• What if I am far away from my home, and something happens to me and I flip out or freak out – or out of control.
• I’ll feel complete and content when I marry/date/sleep with the right person.
• The reason I'm not married/in a relationship/etc is that I'm too fat/lazy/ugly/whatever.
• I must not be loveable, because I don't have anyone.
• I live in a world which is not real (Derealization).
  
• I'm loosing my mind because the world looks unreal.
  
• I will never get better.
• Even is someone seems to like me, when they really get to know me, they won't like me anymore.
• Everytime I let myself love someone they leave me.
• I am responsible for other peoples actions.
• I am responsible for other peoples enjoyment while in my company.
• Everyone else seems to find it really easy to make friends, but I don't, so there must be something wrong with me.
• If I don't do this right, my child will be miserable.
• Why should anyone like me, I don't like myself.
• I'm selfish, aggressive, and have no control over my reactions.

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