God Bless Doug Wildman for being there for me and anxietycentre.com
I can't express enough gratitude for the amazing help I have received through Doug Wildman and the resulting transformation I have been going through with assistance from the member's area of the anxietycentre.com website. My life has changed forever and I am finally turning into the person that I always wanted to be...and the person I never thought I could be.
It all started in 2006 when I got my first panic attack. I had been highly anxious since I was a young child but I did not become seriously symptomatic until I was 38 years old. That first attack set in motion an intense fear of my anxiety symptoms until the point where I was paralyzed in fear...intense fear, panic attacks, feelings of gloom and doom, crazy thoughts, sweating, heart palpitations, racing heart, tingling sensations, depersonalization, shivering, shaking, muscle twitches, headaches, dizziness, and nausea. I also encountered terrible insomnia. At its worst, I didn’t sleep for a four-day stretch. To say I fell apart would be an understatement. I was convinced that my life was over, that I was going to lose my family, and that I was going to end up in a mental hospital.
My doctor prescribed antidepressants, which I took for a year. After getting SOME relief...with emphasis on SOME, I went off of them. Six months later I was back on them after another panic attack hit me out of the blue. I thought my life was going to be a lifelong struggle with a disorder that I could not control and that I would be on medication for the duration of my life.
I searched anxiety websites, went to a psychologist, and purchased books...I tried everything. I finally found a program that gave me some optimism that this condition could be eradicated but I quickly lost interest when I wasn’t getting immediate relief. Sound familiar??
My life changed dramatically in March of this year when I found anxietycentre.com. It sounded great so I purchased a membership and began to read the site. I was absolutely floored with the amount of information the site provided. I knew I had found the best anxiety information on the net. I started putting the information into practice with respect to recovery strategies and was slowly starting to notice improvements. I followed the advice closely.
I started to feel better, a lot better actually, but I still wasn’t feeling like I was on my way to complete recovery. I still had periods of bad anxiety mixed with feeling “ok” at best. Still, it was a lot better than before.
Then I started to read about personal coaching on the site. I became interested in the underlying factors of anxiety after reading about them on the site, because I could relate to them. I noticed how poor my mental habits were and how it was contributing to my anxiety and resulting depression. I made my first appointment with Doug Wildman in May of 2009.
I was instantly at ease with Doug and he made me comfortable from the beginning. It was so refreshing talking to somebody who had been through the same crippling anxiety that I had. Here I was talking to someone who was just like me, and beat the condition. If he could do it, maybe I could too. I was also shocked at how well I could relate with him on how I felt and thought. For the first time, somebody “gets me”...understands me. Honestly, it was like talking to a mirror, because the problems that I thought were unique to me were just classic anxiety symptoms and issues that he lived through and defeated himself. I was not crazy after all...I finally had hope!!
I was skeptical at first that I could achieve complete recovery like Doug. That’s not unusual, because I think many of us anxious people think our condition is worse or more entrenched than the other person. “Sure, they could do it, but I won’t be able to because my condition is worse and I have had it longer than they have.” But I was dead wrong on that thought. More on that in a moment.
I have been working with Doug since May on my underlying factors, and it has been the most eye-opening experience of my life. Not only are my anxiety symptoms no longer a significant issue, I have learned incredible life lessons and tools to cope with everyday life. I’m happy, motivated, calm, and content. Quite frankly, I’m already feeling better now than I can ever remember in my life...even as a child. I’m not tense or irritable any longer either. I have learned to be comfortable with myself and live life the way it was supposed to be.
I still plan on working with Doug into the future because I still have a lot of learning to do. I’m still in recovery mode, although anxiety is no longer a significant issue for me. For all of you anxiety sufferers, I can’t emphasize enough how important personal counselling is...and Doug is top notch. Great person and a great counsellor. He’s my mentor.
A few important words for the anxiety sufferers out there. Take these words to heart because I’m a living, breathing example of someone who has lived it and conquered it:
• YOU CAN BEAT IT. It’s not easy, but consistent application of the advice on anxietycentre.com and working with a counsellor WILL fix your disorder.
• IT TAKES TIME. You will have days where you question whether you will get better or not. You will have ups and downs and it will test your patience and confidence. Hang in there friend, and don’t give up...I felt like giving up over and over again and I stuck with it even when I felt down. I now reap the benefits and have defeated it.
• YOU ARE NO DIFFERENT THAN OTHER ANXIETY SUFFERERS. Your disorder will go away if you apply the strategies. You are NOT a hopeless cause and your condition is BEATABLE, despite how poorly you feel. Take that to the bank.
• YOU ARE IN CONTROL, NOT THE DISORDER. And in time, those obsessive thoughts that were giving you trouble (those thoughts that you never thought you could control) eventually go away. Take comfort in that.
My life is better than I could have imagined. My renewed confidence is going to take me places in life that I never dreamed would be possible. You could feel like that too...just give it a chance.
By the way, I’m also now medication-free!
God Bless Jim Folk for starting this website, and God Bless Doug Wildman for being there for me as my counsellor and friend.
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Authors: Jim Folk, Marilyn Folk, BScN. Last updated August 2016.