Grace Lian, BA (Psychology), MDiv (Counseling), DMin - Psychotherapist
Grace speaks English, Cantonese, and German.
Grace specializes in the areas of:
- Anxiety Disorders
- Conversion Disorder
- Panic Disorder
- Addictions (Drugs, Alcohol, Sexual, Gambling)
- Anger Management
- Crisis Intervention and Prevention
- Loss and Grief
- Intercultural Issues
- Divorce and Marital Stress
- Pastoral Counselling
Grace experienced the following symptoms:
- Chest tightness feeling
- Feeling cold, chills
- Racing heart, heart palpitations
- Hot flashes
- Pounding heart
- Depressed mood
- Shaking, trembling
- Urge to flee
- Heightened sense of danger
- And many more
For as long as Grace could remember, she felt anxiety around dogs. Every time she saw a dog, she would start to sweat and felt feelings of panic and fear; she would then begin to run as far away as she could. Her parents explained to her that running only incites the dog to chase after her so, she avoided any encounters with dogs. However, it was during her time teaching at an orphanage in Jamaica that made her realize that she needed to deal with her phobia. Through supportive pastoral counseling using stress inoculation and meditation (mindfulness), she learned to overcome with her phobia.
Pastoral counselling supports truly became useful during her final year in university. They helped her in facing the reality of her father’s stroke and the subsequent “loss” of the father she knew as his stroke left him aphasic and paralyzed on one side of his body. His support, friendship and wisdom, which in the past gave her much personal guidance and strength, was now absent. Loneliness and sadness were new emotions that arose from this situation. She needed to cope with the change in her father’s level of functioning, the impact that this had on their relationship and her new role. She now needed to be responsible for the family business and co-share the caregiver role.
During this time, Grace also encountered another stressful barrier from her new in-laws. Being stigmatized, stereotyped, patronized and seen as unworthy as she belonged to a different cultural background than her partner evoked anxiety in her. She had to learn to deal with the discrimination due to being in an interracial marriage, while balancing the principles of being true to herself and not compromising on her beliefs and values.
As a parent, she had a difficult challenge when she witnessed her child being bullied. However, her experience working in school settings and understanding of anxiety helped them to overcome this painful experience and process it towards a positive bonding and learning experience.Today, Grace and her husband of 20 years and their three teen-agers have lived in three different countries, and love to embrace new languages, cultures and people. They thrive on new challenges in holistic ways, be it physical, mental, social or spiritual. They love to hike and climb mountains, admire nature, play board games, and enjoy the company of people from all walks of life.
Grace has a Bachelor degree in Psychology from the University of Waterloo, M. Div. in Counselling (Marriage and Family therapy) from Tyndale Seminary, as well as a Doctorate of Ministry (Cross-Cultural studies) from Gordon Conwell Theological Seminary. Her time spent working in a hospital in India, supporting individuals in areas of trauma, psychosomatic, conflict resolution, grief, death and dying issues, profoundly impacted her, and made her realize what she wanted to do in her life. Since then, she has worked in halfway houses and prisons serving inmates and ex-offenders. She has also supported people struggling with addictions and women fleeing abusive and crisis situations. She is working in the area of palliative care and terminal illnesses.
The combination of good self-help information and working with an experienced anxiety disorder therapist, coach, or counselor is the most effective way to address anxiety and its many symptoms. Until the core causes of anxiety are addressed - we call these core causes the underlying factors of anxiety - a struggle with anxiety unwellness can return again and again. Dealing with the underlying factors of anxiety is the best way to address problematic anxiety.
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Authors: Jim Folk, Marilyn Folk, BScN. Last updated January 31, 2018.